Emotional abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse, and many believe it to be even more dangerous because you can’t see it happening. At least with physical abuse, you know that something is wrong. With emotional abuse you can question what is really happening within the relationship.

Emotional abuse is a way to control another person by using emotions to criticize, shame, blame, or otherwise manipulate another person. A relationship becomes emotionally abusive when there is a consistent pattern of abusive words and bullying behaviors that wear down a person’s self esteem and undermine their mental health.

These things can be easy to miss when you are in the relationship, because you can become conditioned to believe that this is normal within a relationship. Or perhaps it’s all you have ever known because you choose the same type of partner.

It’s important for you to know that if this has happened to you, it’s not your fault. As the victim we take on the actions of our partner and begin to believe that we are to blame, because they tell us that everything is our fault. You have the right to feel safe, respected, and supported in your relationship. This is what a healthy relationship feels like, a safe space.

Some forms of emotional abuse are:

Yelling, belittling, or ridiculing the partner

Insulting the partner in front of other people

Saying things to upset or frighten one’s partner

Acting indifferently to one’s partners feelings

Making one’s partner do humiliating or degrading things and demanding obedience

Withholding affection, threatening to leave the relationship

Doing something to spite one’s partner

Restricting the partner in anyway

Turning other people against one’s partner

Controlling their partner

Isolating them from family and friends

Gaslighting

Jealousy, and possessiveness

Emotional abuse doesn’t just happen within a romantic relationship. It can happen in friendships, family, and business relationships. There was a time that I had these things happening in all 4 types of relationships, and I was completely unaware of it.

I teach others about how we attract the same type of people into our life because of our subconscious patterns. Until we change our beliefs about ourselves, we continue in the same cycle that we have been conditioned to believe. We will unconsciously seek the same type of relationships, until we remove the unwanted beliefs about ourselves. It is essential that you heal from the things that keep you stuck.

If you are stuck in the limiting belief that you are not worthy, or you are not enough because of trauma, a part of your brain has created filters that you see the world through. You will see yourself through that lense, and will continue to unconsciously and automatically keep scanning the environment to feel the energy of whom is matching those beliefs you have. Thus, creating more situations that you do not want.

It’s important that you break free from these limiting beliefs, so that you can become a conscious creator of your life. It is how I broke free from every abusive relationship that I was ever surrounded by. The therapy that I incorporate into helping my clients rewire their brains, has helped thousands start living an empowered life.

No one deserves to be treated poorly, and no one deserves to feel unsafe in a relationship. I am here to show you that there is so much more to life, and help you break free from old patterns and behaviors that don’t serve you. My hope is that with using my voice that I reach the people that need to hear this message. Always choose you over anything else!

As always, thank you for being here with me!