You’re Not Your Trauma

“ Your trauma is not your fault, but healing is your responsibility”

This quote above has been one of the largest motivations for me to continue on my own healing journey. There were so many times where the healing part, and the unraveling of all the trauma left me so exhausted I just would rather still be in the toxic patterns and dynamics that kept me stuck, because at least that is what was familiar to me. I actually felt more safe being treated poorly, feeling unloved, defeated, abused, than I did feeling the opposite. When the trauma and abuse is all you know growth can be scary. Moving towards healthier spaces, and a healthier self can be overwhelming. In my case, sometimes downright terrifying.

I found myself so many times sitting in the seat of playing the victim, I loved identifying as the victim of my circumstance. I often would cry and ask myself, “why me?” Once I stopped blaming everyone else, and turned the finger back around at myself I finally found my freedom. Instead of the victim, I became the survivor, and than ultimately the thriving individual. I made the conscious choice to not continue identifying with my trauma, or being the victim. Instead, I chose to become the survivor, a true warrior. I chose to crawl my way out of the darkness, and know that I deserved more.

How can you do this for yourself?

You can become a survivor in 3 easy steps:

Acceptance- accept that you feel victimized.

Recognize- recognize what caused you to feel like a victim (abuse, unfairness, trauma)

Respond- consider ways to face and/or respond to what victimized you.

The power here lies in how you learn to respond, rather than react. This is where the unlearning of old behaviors, patterns, and limiting beliefs comes into play. You have to learn how to not react as you always have, but rather from the new version of you that has learned to respond in a more positive manner.

This takes practice, dedication, and self love to unravel all the wounded parts of yourself. I am here to remind you that you are more capable than you realize, and you’re NOT your trauma. It doesn’t have to be your identity, it can be a catalyst for you to build a true sense of self that you love and adore.

As always thank you for being here with me,