How To Set Boundaries With “Toxic People”

I didn’t even know what setting a boundary meant years ago, because I was raised in a family that didn’t set healthy boundaries. If I wasn’t taught it, then how could I implement them as an adult?

This left me with a disservice in life, because not understanding how to do this led me to stay in abusive relationships, toxic friendships, and jobs that left me depleted. I was taken advantage of, and I would complain about feeling this way but not change anything. I had allowed everyone to take my power each and every time I chose NOT to set a boundary.

Now here I am, finally learning that all those years I had the choice to see how everyone was taking advantage of me and stand in my power. So, this is why I am here in this space with you to help you to do this before you waste another minute allowing anyone to take away your power.

How do you set these boundaries?

Boundaries make our expectations clear, so others know what to expect from us and how we want to be treated. Boundaries are the foundation for happy, healthy relationships.

Toxic or abusive people will do everything they can to resist our efforts to set boundaries; they will argue, blame, ignore, manipulate, threaten, or physically hurt us. And while we can’t prevent people from acting like this, we can learn to set clear boundaries and take care of ourselves first.

When we do not have boundaries, we do not have self love for ourselves. We put others before ourselves.

There are three parts to setting boundaries:

1) Identify your boundaries. Be clear on what you need before trying to communicate or enforce the boundary.

2) Communicate your boundaries or expectations clearly, calmly, and consistently. Stick to the facts without over explaining, blaming, or becoming defensive.

3) If your boundaries aren’t respected, evaluate your options and take action.

What I learned the hard way is that when boundaries are violated, I made excuses for that person and betrayed myself time and time again.

If you need help with learning how to set healthy boundaries, I run a workshop to learn what boundaries are being overstepped in your life by others, and how you can begin learning how to protect yourself and come back in your power!

As always, thank you for being here with me!